Narcissist Decoded - Real Life Female Narcissist
A real life day by day relationship between a female narcissist and male empath. As the latter half of this nightmare I do not have any formal education in psychology so DO NOT assume I am anything more than a survivor. This is a war and not a relationship and sometimes a battle hardened platoon sergeant will get your ass home safely whereas a young officer, just out of West Point, the platoon leader might get you there in a body bag.
Three main ideas have driven me to take the time to share my experience with you.
First thing is to lighten up! You will notice I laugh at all this now however while in it I did not. I fought back, having logic and reason on my side (WRONG) or went "gray-rock" (better but not right). These are negative, unhappy people. With your personal safety always foremost, don't curl into a ball, laugh; laugh at them, laugh at the situation, laugh at yourself. Don't be condescending or belittling, that's there game and they will beat you every time. Take control and change it to your game where you have home court. Quit giving them the power. More on this...
Second thing is this hell is not always black and white but having much gray area. Just like every other thing in life it's dynamic, fluid and ever changing so don't let doubt and the master manipulator give you pause. The underlying current does not ever change. One person destroys and the other mends. When the narcissist is nice; love bombing, docile or dormant, look for change in them from them. A true narcissist will have no change. Get out! No change means its always going to me the same.
Last and this is the most important of anything I will ever share